I usually only ever hear it said when anyone who isn’t a cis dude (although, in full disclosure, I don’t personally know any transwomen, but I imagine there are plenty of misogynists who feel the need to comment on their femininity, especially when it comes to being “feminine enough” whatever that means, but I digress & anyone assigned female at birth has heard these phrases since childhood) makes some kind of bodily noise, whether it be coughing up phlegm, blowing one’s noise, or coughing up the food that accidentally got stuck in the back of your throat. You know, the normal human noises you make when you’re sick or potentially choking on your dinner. Or, when you burp or fart or whatever.
NEWS FLASH: I AM NOT TRYING TO BE ATTRACTIVE AT THAT MOMENT IN TIME.
(Actually, most moments, I am not actively trying to be attractive. When I put too much conscious thought into being attractive, I usually find the results less than stellar, but again, that’s a whole other issue.)
But, 100% of the time when I am sick or have allergies or have gotten food lodged into my throat or nasal passages, I am not trying to impress anyone, especially in an “attract a mate” kind of way. I’m trying to expel the offending mucus or phlegm or food particle from my body. When I burp or fart, it’s because I have gas (SHOCKER!). Because that’s what human bodies do. That’s how nature (or God) designed us.
Dudebros, take note: we aren’t here to provide 24/7 boner inducing behavior and looks. We aren’t here to be some kind of perfect animal who doesn’t get sick, choke on food, burp, fart, snort, or make any sot of potentially offensive noise whatsoever. We’re human beings. We make gross noises, too.